My billionaire mentor never mentored me. I never saw his face. He left my messages on read and dropped in and out of every meeting he was invited to.
Billionaires don’t have the time to mentor you. Even if they did, they wouldn’t do it. They didn’t get to the top by helping people who don’t make them any richer or provide any kind of value in return.
Behind the scenes, billionaires are running and managing multiple large-scale ventures. This means interstate and international flights every other week. This means board meetings. This means making an endless supply of managerial choices and deciding which investment opportunities to pursue.
They could care less for you. They don’t want you to be rich. They want you to run around and build their ever-growing empire. And the only people in their network are people on the same level or above them; people useful to them.
Understand that these people only see you for what value you can bring them. They want to partner with you and will be friendly only if you can make them more wealthy. If you’re not valuable to them, they will discard you in a moment’s notice.
Billionaires will not mentor you - they expect you to be an expert already. If you’re not, they will connect or partner with someone who is.
Billionaires are serial narcissists. A friend who was heavily involved in dealing with a billionaire’s family said they were incredibly broken and dysfunctional, and was never impressed by their displays of wealth.
In one instance, this billionaire took his associates for a fishing trip. Nobody else managed to catch anything, but every time the billionaire caught a fish, everybody had to give him a round of applause. This happened repeatedly for close to an hour.
My friend suspects everyone else had been given useless bait except for the billionaire, just so his ego could be fed. Sad to think that despite having such a high net-worth you still care what normies think of you.
Now, millionaires will have the time to mentor you. But being a millionaire is not exceptional. Especially those above the age of 40 and who have earned their wealth by working a corporate job, saving, and investing in property or retirement funds.
If you can learn from someone who is worth eight and nine-figure range, you will soon learn that these people are not particularly special either. They didn’t do anything extraordinary to get to where they are now.
There is no ‘secret sauce’ that every rich individual has that you don’t. They more than likely grew up in a time when jobs paid better and the cost of living was lower.
They just happened to be positioned in the right place at the right time, worked hard and played their cards right. You will never be able to replicate their success by copying what they did. Instead, you should observe how they did it and heed their wisdom.
Once again, these people have not made all the correct moves either. Evaluate what they did right and find a way to politely ask if there’s anything they could go back and do differently or advice for their younger selves.
One pattern you’ll notice is obsession. Whether they’re career millionaires or business owners, the work always gets done. Some of the millionaires I used to work for would very often skip lunch breaks and stay in the office to work or read the newspaper. Or just use their lunch breaks to have business meetings.
In the most extreme example, a fire alarm went off in the building, and someone I know ignored the screeching sirens and continued to work. The fire warden evacuated everyone, calling out saying it wasn’t a drill, but he was in a flow state and did not leave.
Even as the sprinklers went off and the room filled with water, he remained. It was only after he finished what he was doing, with the water in the room now reaching ankle-height, did he reluctantly leave the office.
This is far from the /comfy/ lifestyle readers of this newsletter have in mind, but it’s interesting to observe nonetheless.
You usually have an idea of how you think billionaires act: being calm, collected, and balanced.
That is often not the case. One I heard of but never met had a horrible temper and was very aggressive, coming very close to bashing those around him after a deal gone wrong.
Another one I met only once threw a temper tantrum and vented for fifteen minutes straight on the phone when something didn’t go his way. It was very reminiscent of a child.
Regardless, it’s important not to idolise people like this. You can definitely admire what they’ve done, study how they’ve made their wealth and try to apply lessons for yourself. Like all people, they are flawed and should not be glorified or worshipped.
If you’re looking for a mentor, my suggestion is to find someone who:
has the time to meet with you weekly, even if it’s just a coffee or a lunch;
made their money in the field of expertise you want to pursue;
(most importantly) sees a bit of themselves in you.
Mentorship is overrated. It’s much better to work along important people than to work under them.
There are more lessons to be learned from the wealthy I’ve met and worked with. These will probably wind up as tweets or maybe even a follow-up post.
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Stay /comfy/.
Love this one NEET. Gold
This is actually a serially truthful take. Met a couple and personally have the phone number of 2 people worth about 150 million collectively. At a certain point you begin to sacrifice far more than what the billion can replace on a spiritual or emotional level.